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Negotiation script.
The pre-scene conversation, written out. Pick your scene shape and we generate a script you can read together, edit, and print. Safewords, limits, scene arc, aftercare all covered. No script can replace honest communication, but having one in hand removes 80% of the awkwardness of starting.
Choose a word you would not say during sex (e.g. "pineapple", "scaffold", "Brighton").
Pick all four inputs to generate the script.
Your script
Pre-scene negotiation
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Pre-scene physical check (60 seconds, both partners)
- Safety scissors within arm's reach of the bed/play area? [location confirmed]
- Phones on silent, doors locked, pets out of the room? [yes / no]
- Water and a snack within reach for after? [yes / no]
- Lubricant nearby and the right type for any toys involved? [yes / no]
- Anything new (food, sleep, mood) we should flag before starting? [say now]
Post-scene debrief (within 24 hours)
Short conversation, no notes needed. Cover these four:
- What worked? What part of the scene did each of us land?
- What did not? Where did we hit a yellow or want to stop?
- What would we change next time?
- Any aftercare follow-up needed today (call, message, in-person check-in)?
Generated by the BondageBox negotiation script tool. Treat as a starter; rewrite freely.
The rest of the flow
The script is the conversation. The other tools cover what to negotiate, what you both want, and what to do after.
Frequently asked
- Why generate a script at all? Can't we just talk?
- You can. But the first three or four times couples try a new scene type, "just talking" tends to skip the safety items because they feel unsexy. A script removes the awkwardness; you read it together once, agree it, move on. After a few scenes you can negotiate without it.
- Is the script meant to be read aloud word-for-word?
- No. It is a checklist of what to cover, with example phrasing for the parts that are hardest to say (the safeword agreement, the hard-limits ask, the aftercare arrangement). Use the wording or rewrite in your own voice.
- Should we negotiate every scene, or just new ones?
- Every new scene with a new partner. Every new activity within an existing partnership. Every time intensity steps up materially. For an established partnership doing a familiar scene, a quick verbal check-in is enough.
- What if my partner finds negotiation a mood-killer?
- The mood-killer is usually the format, not the act. Doing it over dinner the day before a scene, rather than 60 seconds before play starts, fixes 80% of this. The other 20% is realising the negotiation is part of the play, not separate from it.
- What if my limits change during a scene?
- That is what the safeword is for. Yellow ("approaching my limit, adjust") is the most important word in the system; use it freely. Red ("stop") gets used less if yellow is treated as a real signal.