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Yes / Maybe / No checklist.
The single most useful conversation tool for new and long-term couples alike. 100 activities across 9 categories. Tick each as Yes, Maybe, No or Skip. Share a private link with your partner, compare the overlap. No sign-up, no data stored, your answers live only in your browser.
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Comparison mode
Your partner shared their list
Their answers stay hidden. Fill out the list below from your own perspective, then click "Compare" at the bottom to see overlap.
Wearing a blindfold
Being tied or restrained with cuffs
Tying or restraining a partner with cuffs
Being tied with rope
Tying a partner with rope
Being tied to a bed frame or piece of furniture
Wearing a collar
Putting a collar on a partner
Being gagged (soft, e.g. ball gag)
Being lifted or suspended (off the floor)
Being spanked by hand
Spanking a partner by hand
Being struck with a paddle
Striking a partner with a paddle
Being struck with a flogger
Striking a partner with a flogger
Being struck with a cane or crop
Striking a partner with a cane or crop
Receiving impact that leaves visible marks
Receiving impact that leaves no marks
Being touched with a feather or soft fabric
Wearing nipple clamps
Putting nipple clamps on a partner
Wax play (low-temperature candles)
Ice play
Receiving electrical sensation (e.g. e-stim, TENS)
Sensory deprivation (blindfold + earplugs)
Receiving a massage as part of play
Giving a massage as part of play
Hot/cold contrast in the same scene
Taking a dominant role in a scene
Taking a submissive role in a scene
Switching between dominant and submissive
Following spoken commands from a partner
Giving spoken commands to a partner
Being addressed by a specific title (e.g. Sir/Miss)
Addressing a partner by a specific title
Negotiated 24/7 dynamic (continuous role)
Negotiated scene-only dynamic (bounded by start/end)
Being required to ask permission
Costumed roleplay (uniform, character)
Power-imbalance roleplay (boss/employee, etc.)
Praise / encouragement language
Humiliation language (with care and consent)
Age-play (adult only)
Pet-play (kitten, puppy)
Wearing latex during a scene
Wearing leather during a scene
Wearing lingerie during a scene
Cross-dressing as part of a scene
Receiving oral sex
Giving oral sex
Manual stimulation (hands only)
Using a vibrator (solo or partnered)
Using a dildo (solo or partnered)
Mutual masturbation (both partners visible)
Edging (extended without orgasm)
Orgasm denial (no orgasm during scene)
Orgasm control (partner controls when)
Multiple orgasms in one session
External anal touch (fingers)
Internal anal touch (fingers)
Anal play with a small toy (under 1.5 inch diameter)
Anal play with a larger toy
Receiving anal penetration from a partner
Giving anal penetration to a partner
Prostate stimulation (receiver)
Prostate stimulation (giver)
Anal sex with a strap-on (receiver)
Anal sex with a strap-on (giver)
Being watched by a partner during solo play
Watching a partner during solo play
Sharing photos within an established relationship
Receiving photos within an established relationship
Sharing video within an established relationship
Being recorded during a scene
Sex in a location with risk of being seen
Sex with the curtains/windows visible
Mirror play (watching yourself)
Partner narrating what they see during a scene
Breath play (light, partner-controlled)
Knife play (sensation only, no breaking skin)
Needle play
Fire play
Watersports
Group sex (three or more, consenting)
Swinging (partner-swap with another couple)
Public sex venue (sex club, dungeon)
Online play with a third party (cam, voice)
Polyamorous arrangement (long-term)
Negotiating the scene in detail before play
A safeword check-in every 10-15 minutes
Verbal praise during a scene
Verbal degradation language (within agreed limits)
Eye contact maintained during play
Music playing during a scene
Soft lighting / candle-lit setting
Aftercare conversation directly afterwards
A 24-hour follow-up message or call after a scene
Sleeping in the same bed after a scene
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Next in the flow
The checklist tells you what is on the table. The other two tools cover the rest of the scene prep:
Frequently asked
- Is anything I tick stored on your server?
- No. Your answers are encoded into a string that lives only in the URL of your browser. We see no submissions, store no list, hold no record. If you close the tab without bookmarking or sharing the URL, nothing survives.
- How do I share my list with a partner without showing them my answers?
- Click "Share with partner" once you have ticked your items. We generate a URL with your answers encoded. Your partner opens that link and fills out their own list separately, then clicks "Compare" to see overlap. Neither partner sees the other's answers until both have submitted, and even then only the matches appear by default.
- What do "yes", "maybe" and "no" actually mean?
- "Yes" means "this is on the table, I want to try it." "Maybe" means "I am curious or willing under specific conditions, let's talk." "No" means "this is a hard limit, not under any circumstances." "Skip" leaves it unanswered. Treat "no" as a no even if the rest of the list suggests adventurousness.
- What if I am not sure about an item?
- Pick "maybe". The maybe column is the most useful part of the list, the conversation it prompts is the point. There is no penalty for an honest "maybe", and the maybe items are where most couples discover they have overlap they hadn't named.
- Why no graphic terminology in the activity names?
- Because checklists with explicit jargon become quickly outdated and exclude readers who do not know the vocabulary. Plain-English item names sit better on a kitchen-table conversation and translate cleanly to any sexual orientation or configuration.
- Can same-sex couples or non-binary partners use this?
- Yes. The activities are written gender-neutral where possible; where a phrase mentions anatomy, treat it as descriptive rather than gendered. The comparison view does not assume gender of either partner.