Checklist Category
Oral & Genital
The activities most couples never explicitly negotiate; the ones that need it most. Oral, manual, vibrator, edging, orgasm control, orgasm denial. The bread and butter of partnered sex, made sharper by being explicitly listed.
Why this category matters
Many couples assume they know each other on this category and discover they do not. Edging is a yes for one and a maybe for the other; orgasm denial is a fantasy item for one and a hard no for the other. Listing the activities forces the specifics into the open.
The 10 activities in this category
For each, mark internally whether you would say yes, maybe, or no. Then take the full checklist to share it with a partner.
- 01 Receiving oral sex
- 02 Giving oral sex
- 03 Manual stimulation (hands only)
- 04 Using a vibrator (solo or partnered)
- 05 Using a dildo (solo or partnered)
- 06 Mutual masturbation (both partners visible)
- 07 Edging (extended without orgasm)
- 08 Orgasm denial (no orgasm during scene)
- 09 Orgasm control (partner controls when)
- 10 Multiple orgasms in one session
Use the full tool
To save your answers and share them with a partner, use the full Yes/Maybe/No checklist. 10 activities here are part of 10 categories totalling 100 activities.
Open the full checklist →Read on this category
-
How to Make a Woman Orgasm: A Plain UK Guide
A plain UK guide to women's orgasm, what the research says, why the clitoris matters, and the techniques that actually close the orgasm gap.
-
How to Find Your G-Spot: A Plain UK Guide
A plain UK guide to finding the G-spot, what it actually is, where it is, the easiest position, and what to do once you have located it.
-
How to Last Longer in Bed: A Plain UK Guide
A plain UK guide to lasting longer in bed: what the research says, the techniques that work (start-stop, pelvic floor, breathing), and the gear that helps.
-
Foreplay Ideas: A Plain UK Guide for Couples
A UK guide to foreplay for couples, slow build, sensation, easy ideas beyond kissing and undressing, with the research on why it matters.
Related checklist categories
Category
Sensation Play →
Feathers, wax, ice, electrical sensation, sensory deprivation. The category covers everything that intensifies or removes sensatio...
Category
Communication & Comfort →
The activities that are about how a scene happens rather than what it contains: negotiating in detail, check-ins, eye contact, the...
Category
Anal →
Anal play in all its forms: external touch, fingers, small toys, larger toys, partner penetration, prostate stimulation, strap-on...