Checklist Category
Power Exchange / D/s
Dominance and submission as a deliberate dynamic, whether scene-only or extended into the day-to-day. Power exchange is the meta-category that contains many other kinks; almost everything else gets more interesting (or less) depending on how the power balance is set.
Why this category matters
Power exchange is the category most often misread by partners. One person can be Dominant in bed and not at all in life; service submission is a different thing from masochism; titles and honorifics matter to some and embarrass others. The yes/maybe/no answers cut through the assumption.
The 10 activities in this category
For each, mark internally whether you would say yes, maybe, or no. Then take the full checklist to share it with a partner.
- 01 Taking a dominant role in a scene
- 02 Taking a submissive role in a scene
- 03 Switching between dominant and submissive
- 04 Following spoken commands from a partner
- 05 Giving spoken commands to a partner
- 06 Being addressed by a specific title (e.g. Sir/Miss)
- 07 Addressing a partner by a specific title
- 08 Negotiated 24/7 dynamic (continuous role)
- 09 Negotiated scene-only dynamic (bounded by start/end)
- 10 Being required to ask permission
Use the full tool
To save your answers and share them with a partner, use the full Yes/Maybe/No checklist. 10 activities here are part of 10 categories totalling 100 activities.
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