Checklist Category
Edge & Advanced
Breath play, knife play, needle play, fire, watersports, group sex, swinging, public-venue play, online play with a third party, long-term polyamory. The activities that need significantly more negotiation, skill, or relationship-structure work than the rest of the list.
Why this category matters
A "yes" to anything in this category should never be acted on without dedicated preparation: training, safety briefings, vetted partners, relationship conversations. Treat the answers here as starting points for separate, longer conversations rather than immediate to-do items.
The 10 activities in this category
For each, mark internally whether you would say yes, maybe, or no. Then take the full checklist to share it with a partner.
- 01 Breath play (light, partner-controlled)
- 02 Knife play (sensation only, no breaking skin)
- 03 Needle play
- 04 Fire play
- 05 Watersports
- 06 Group sex (three or more, consenting)
- 07 Swinging (partner-swap with another couple)
- 08 Public sex venue (sex club, dungeon)
- 09 Online play with a third party (cam, voice)
- 10 Polyamorous arrangement (long-term)
Use the full tool
To save your answers and share them with a partner, use the full Yes/Maybe/No checklist. 10 activities here are part of 10 categories totalling 100 activities.
Open the full checklist →Read on this category
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Negotiating a Scene Without Killing the Mood
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Safe Words Explained Properly: The UK Guide for 2026
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Aftercare: What It Is, and Why It Matters
A plain introduction to BDSM aftercare: what it is, why it matters, and why both partners need it.
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