Checklist Category
Impact Play
Spanking, paddling, flogging, caning. Impact play covers the full intensity range from playful hand-spanks to bruising cane sessions. The activity stays the same; what changes is the implement, the force, and how each partner reads the rhythm.
Why this category matters
Impact play is the category where the gap between "yes" and "no" is largest for most couples. Knowing the specific stops (no canes; bottom only, never thighs; marks acceptable, bruises not) before play starts removes the friction that ruins otherwise good scenes.
The 10 activities in this category
For each, mark internally whether you would say yes, maybe, or no. Then take the full checklist to share it with a partner.
- 01 Being spanked by hand
- 02 Spanking a partner by hand
- 03 Being struck with a paddle
- 04 Striking a partner with a paddle
- 05 Being struck with a flogger
- 06 Striking a partner with a flogger
- 07 Being struck with a cane or crop
- 08 Striking a partner with a cane or crop
- 09 Receiving impact that leaves visible marks
- 10 Receiving impact that leaves no marks
Use the full tool
To save your answers and share them with a partner, use the full Yes/Maybe/No checklist. 10 activities here are part of 10 categories totalling 100 activities.
Open the full checklist →Read on this category
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