The Anal Desk
Anya Voss
Runs the Anal desk. Warm, calm, safety-first. The byline you want when you have never done anal play before and want someone unhurried who will take you through it without coyness or alarm.
Anya runs the Anal desk: butt plug progression, anal beads, training kits, probe-style insertables, the inflatable category, and the anal-specific lubricant range. The category carries a higher beginner-error rate than any other part of the catalogue, and her pieces are correspondingly structured around safety and progression rather than around novelty.
Her editorial register is warm and unhurried. The framing she returns to: the flared base is the safety feature, not a stylistic choice, and progression matters more than ambition. UK A&E retrieval cases for anal toys almost always trace back to either a missing flare or a too-large jump in size, and her pieces address both directly. There is no "tip" in any of her work that hasn't been pressure-tested against current UK clinical advice on rectal-health context.
Sources Anya draws on: published UK A&E case-study summaries, the b-Vibe Anal Education materials, the Sliquid technical sheets on anal-specific lubricant chemistry, the British Association for Sexual Health and HIV (BASHH) guidance on anal-tier STI prevention, and the academic literature on rectal microtearing and lubrication.
Areas of expertise
A note on this byline: Anya Voss is a stable pen name owned by the BondageBox editorial team. Pieces published under this byline are written, fact-checked and edited to the standard set out in our editorial standards. Reach the editorial desk at [email protected].
Recent guides by Anya Voss
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How to Have Anal Sex Safely: The Plain UK Guide
The plain UK guide to anal sex safely: anatomy, preparation, lubricant, STI prevention, the 20-minute warm-up, positions, and post-play care.
21 May 2026 · 10 min read
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How to Use a Butt Plug for the First Time UK: The Plain Protocol
The plain UK guide to a first butt-plug session: starter specs, the 30-minute relaxation protocol, lube, insertion, the no-pain rule, removal, and clean-up.
21 May 2026 · 8 min read
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Your First Butt Plug: A UK First-Time Walkthrough
A first-time walkthrough rather than a safety lecture. The 30-minute session, the actual sensation, choosing the right starter plug, and what to do if it doesn't work the first time.
12 May 2026 · 10 min read
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How to Use a Prostate Massager for the First Time: A UK Walkthrough
A first-time walkthrough rather than a clinical lecture. The 45-minute session, what the prostate orgasm actually feels like, choosing the right starter, and what to do if nothing happens the first time.
10 May 2026 · 10 min read
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Pegging UK: A Couples' Guide to Beginning Well
Pegging, considered. The first conversation, what to buy, how to start without overwhelm, written for couples for whom this is new territory.
23 Nov 2025 · 7 min read
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Best Prostate Massager UK 2026: Hands-Free, Vibrating & Rotating Compared
The UK's most-recommended prostate massagers for 2026, three mechanism types compared (hands-free, vibrating, rotating), NHS-aligned safety, real-stock editor's picks £40-£155.
26 Sep 2025 · 15 min read
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Best Anal Beads UK 2026: Silicone, Glass & Steel Sets Compared
A UK buyer's guide to anal beads in 2026: silicone, glass and steel sets, beginner vs experienced sizing, the orgasm-removal technique, NHS-aligned safety, and editor's picks under £50.
12 Sep 2025 · 14 min read
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What Does Pegging Feel Like? An Honest, Anatomical Answer
For both partners, in plain English. The anatomy, the first-time experience, the orientation question, and why it usually takes longer than expected, and feels like nothing else.
10 Jul 2025 · 9 min read
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Anal Training Kits UK: Pacing & Progression for Beginners
How to actually pace anal training: the realistic schedule, how to know when to size up, and how to handle a plateau without forcing it.
16 Apr 2025 · 9 min read
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Anal Training: A Sensible Starting Point for 2026
A UK beginner's guide to anal training, anatomy, lube, breathing, size progression, and the kits that actually work for measured early practice.
1 Aug 2024 · 11 min read
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Pegging for the Curious: A Starter Guide
A starter guide for anyone curious about pegging: what it actually is, who it is for, and how to begin gently.
11 Jun 2024 · 8 min read
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Best Lubricant for Anal Play, by Use Case
The best lubricant for anal play in the UK, chosen by use case: water-based, silicone, hybrid, plus the numbing-lube warning that matters.
30 Apr 2024 · 9 min read